1. 3 Reasons To Set Personal Goals

    Clear goal setting has a major impact on your success in all facets of your life. Goals are what propel you forward in life. As a motivational speaker, one of the most important things that I teach my audiences is how to clearly set realistic and attainable goals. Setting clear goals is like mapping your route. Before you know what direction to go in, you need to know where you’re going. Think big, then make smaller goals that will help you reach your overarching goal. Making smaller goals will help keep you motivated towards your larger goal, and keep it at the forefront of your mind. Here are three reasons you should start setting clear goals:

    Helps you focus

    Goals give you something on which to focus your attention. When you know what you want out of something, it gives you a guide to your behavior and thoughts. Without goals, you may float between different activities and interests with little investment in anything. When you have goals, you are working towards the life you want to be living instead of drifting around aimlessly.

    Allows you to measure progress

    You may have an idea of the person you want to be, but that doesn’t tell you how close you are to becoming that person. By giving yourself clear goals, you have a way to measure exactly the progress you have made towards the life you want to live.

    Establishes accountability

    When you have clear, concrete, attainable goals, you no longer have an excuse for not accomplishing your dream. Instead of talking about what you want to happen, you have a plan of action to make your dreams a reality. With your desires clearly outlined, you hold yourself accountable to making them happen.
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  2. How To Be Open To Inspiration

    Inspiration is an integral part of accomplishing anything. This is because inspiration shifts our perspective away from what you cannot do to what you can do. As an inspirational speaker, I feel blessed to I have been able to inspire many people with my story and insight. When people are inspired, that is when change happens. If you are looking to change something about your life, inspiration can fuel the fire and give you the motivation you need. However, you may be concerned because inspiration is a hard thing to just make happen. Fortunately, there are ways to make yourself open to inspiration, increasing your likelihood of feeling inspired.

    Make an effort

    Prepare your mind for inspiration by committing to a goal. When you put in effort towards that goal, you are in a better position to feel inspired because you are beyond the starting line. For example, let’s say you have always dreamed of climbing a 14,000 ft mountain. If you were to hear an inspirational speaker talk about how mountain climbing changed their life, you may feel quite inspired to pursue this dream. However, if you have not been training to climb a mountain, you will be starting from square one, which will make sustaining your inspiration significantly more difficult.

    Be open-minded

    Another way you can help facilitate inspiration is by being open to new experiences. When you have an open mind, you will be in a better position to accept inspiration when it comes to you. You can become open-minded by trying new experiences and considering alternative perspectives to the way you think about things.

    I would love to help you become inspired to achieve your goals. If you are interested booking me as an inspirational speaker, contact me here.

  3. Cultivating Successful Relationships

    When many people think of success, they associate it with their finances, career, or education. While these are certainly important areas in which to strive for success, the quality of our lives is dictated by far more than that. Having successful relationships, whether they are romantic, familial, or friendly, has a great deal to do with our personal happiness. Just as with anything you do, you must put effort into your relationships in order for them to be successful.

    Be the friend/partner/father/mother you want to have

    A good rule of thumb that you are probably familiar with is to treat others the way you want to be treated. This will deepen your capacity to empathize with your loved one because you are actively putting yourself in their shoes. Empathy is an important element of any successful relationship.

    Keep your promises

    A successful relationship is built on mutual trust. The best way to build trust is to be consistent between what you say you are going to do and what you actually do. When someone knows they can rely on you to follow through on your promises, they know they can trust you to put effort into your relationship.

    Be generous with yourself

    Generosity doesn’t mean that you need to give gifts or money to your loved ones. Instead, you should be generous with yourself. That means being thoughtful and truly caring about their feelings. Regularly checking in with your friends and family to see how they are doing is a form of generosity. Also be open about your appreciation for the things your friends and family do for you, whether through words, a gift, or a thoughtful gesture.

    Having successful relationships is an important element to reaching peak state. For more information about reaching peak state, read The Power Of Peak State.

  4. Excellence as a Habit

    Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.” Everyone wants to be excellent, but not everyone is willing to put effort into making it part of their daily routine. There are people who look at their successful peers and chalk it up to luck or circumstance. Certainly, being successful does require you to have a degree of luck in finding opportunities. However, what really separates successful people from the crowd is their commitment to doing their very best. Here are a few things to keep in mind during your journey towards excellence:

    Excellence is not perfection

    Part of being human is making mistakes. Failure is not escapable, nor should it be avoided. When you fail, you learn how to succeed. Your mistakes are what teach you how to be excellent. Therefore, do not even attempt perfection. Instead, strive to do your absolute best at anything you do. You will not be perfect, but you will be excellent.

    Start small

    If the idea of making excellence a habit daunts you, start small. When you do the dishes, wash them to the absolute best of your ability. When you vacuum the carpet, make it look as clean as you possibly can. Start by committing to excellence with small habits, and soon it will translate to the more important aspects of your life.

    The more you do it, the easier it is

    Like any habit, excellence becomes easier the more you do it. At first, you will have to push yourself to be excellent even when it would be easier to be lazy. Push through your initial resistance. Humans are naturally resistant to change, but once you commit to it, you will soon find that you are excellent out of habit.
    You have the ability to be excellent. For more guidance on how to make excellence a habit, read my personal development book, The Power Of Peak State.

  5. Why Personal Development Matters

    Personal development is the process of fully understanding oneself, and actively taking steps to reach one’s full potential. Personal development is an essential element of success, but little focus is put on it in our society. There are no personal development courses in school, and it is likely that very few people in your life have encouraged you to think critically about who you are and who you want to be. This is a grave error on the part of our culture at large, because personal development is the key to a happy and fulfilling life. It is my opinion that if everyone focused on developing themselves into people who follow set principles and strive towards achievement, our world would be a better place in general.

    As an inspirational speaker, I have helped motivate hundreds of people to improve themselves based on my own personal experience. However, while someone like me may be able to inspire you to strive towards self-improvement, only you can develop yourself. It is your own decision to be your best self and your own actions that determine who you are and who you will become. This is a powerful realization, but it can be intimidating. Many people have lived their lives blaming others or circumstances beyond their control for their problems, refusing to take responsibility for their decisions. Taking control of your life is empowering and transformative, but it does mean that you will have to stop making excuses for why you aren’t your best self. This does not mean you have to beat yourself up when you make a mistake or fail to achieve a goal; in fact, that is a habit that you will have to let go of entirely. It means that when you do make a mistake, you acknowledge that it is okay, and make steps to fix it. Personal development isn’t about perfection; it is about becoming a person who knows themselves and what they want and goes after it.
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  6. Freeing Yourself From Negative Thought Patterns

    As a motivational speaker, I have seen hundreds of people who suffer from low quality of life due to their own negative thought patterns. The stress from their lives has caused them to adopt patterns of self-deprecation and doubt. Many people do not realize that the way they think is dysfunctional; they assume that everyone thinks that way, or that they are inherently bad and deserve the daily berating they give themselves. I am here to tell you that negative self-talk is unhealthy for your body, mind, and spirit, and limits your ability to reach your full potential. The way you speak to yourself creates your reality. When you say to yourself that you will never succeed, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thankfully, you do not have to live like that. There are ways of freeing yourself from these thought patterns.

    Identify rumination

    Ruminating is the act of dwelling on negative feelings. It is a vicious cycle where you cannot escape the negative thought patterns. When you find yourself stewing in your negative thoughts, it is important to first stop and recognize what you are doing. You may even find it helpful to say it out loud — “I’m ruminating, and I need to stop.” Of course, it is not as simple as turning off a switch; negative thoughts have a way of crawling back into our consciousness. But the act of acknowledging that what you are doing is not helpful is the first step to making a change.

    Challenge negative thinking

    Now that you know that you have fallen into a negative thought pattern, you have the opportunity to challenge it. Start by asking yourself the following questions:

    • Why am I thinking in this negative way?
    • How does this negative thinking serve me?
    • Is there a different way for me to look at this situation?
    • Is there anything positive about this situation?
    • What is thinking like this doing to help me achieve my personal goals?

    Separate your mistakes from your self-worth

    Everyone makes mistakes. It is what makes us human. Mistakes are actually an amazing opportunity in life to change our course. Using mistakes as a way to inform behavior and move on is something that all successful people do. The key is to not let them define who you are. Challenge the idea that you are your mistakes by changing the language you use about them. Instead of, “I am a bad student who will never succeed because I forgot to turn in this assignment,” think to yourself, “Forgetting to turn in that assignment was an unfortunate mistake. For the next assignment, I will write the due date in my calendar.” Shifting the negative focus from yourself to your actions stops negative thoughts about your self-worth, and turns it into an opportunity to alter your behavior in the future.

    When you have lived with negative thought patterns for so long, it can be difficult to break free from them. As a motivational speaker, I have helped countless numbers of people overcome their tendency to ruminate on negative thoughts and move on to be successful in their goals. If you are interested in hearing me speak, click here to book me for an event.

  7. 4 Ways You Inspire Others Through Peak State

    The effect that reaching peak state has on your life is apparent in your personal, professional, family, and social lives. However, you reaching peak state can also have a powerful effect on those around you. By reaching peak state, you serve as an inspiration to the people around you. Inspiration is a powerful force because it is the reason we create, learn, and commit to change.

    Here are the ways you can inspire others through peak state:

    By deepening your relationships

    The essence of striving towards your peak state is attempting to improve the quality of your life. When you focus on improving the quality of your life, you are able to prioritize your relationships and put more of yourself into them. When you take the time to actively listen to and care about the people around you, you build trust. That trust lays the foundation for them to be inspired by you.

    By improving yourself

    Self-improvement is an honorable goal that many people attempt but fail to achieve. When you make active steps to improve yourself and actually succeed, it is incredibly inspirational to those around you. When people around you see that you have had the courage to makes steps to improve yourself, it shows them that they are able to do the same thing.

    By developing resilience

    In life, we all will fall at one point. It is the nature of living in an unpredictable world. However, what sets you apart when you reach peak state is your ability to transcend any obstacles to your goal and develop resilience. Resilience is an inspirational quality to other people because it informs them that they are bigger than their problems, and allows them to follow suit and rise above challenges as well.

    By having confidence

    One crucial element of peak state is making the choice to be confident. When you start having confidence in yourself, your abilities become exponentially greater. Additionally, confidence has an infectious quality. Confidence puts people at ease and makes them feel assured of your competence. When your friends and family see your improved confidence, they will be inspired to strive towards their personal potential in order to gain the same confidence level.
    By striving towards peak state, you not only inspire yourself, you inspire others. For more information, read The Power Of Peak State.

  8. What Is Self-Actualization?

    In The Power Of Peak State, one concept that I describe is the idea of self-actualization. If you are familiar with psychology or self-help literature, you may have heard this term before, but if you have not, it is an important concept to grasp in order to understand peak state.

    The term “self-actualization” originated with Humanistic psychologist Abraham Maslow. Maslow is renowned for his hierarchy of needs, an outline of the needs by which people are motivated, depicted in a pyramid. At the base of the pyramid, there are the basic biological needs we all have, such as food, water, shelter, and sleep. Next, there are the needs related to safety — protection from the elements, stability, freedom from fear, and more. Third on the pyramid is our needs related to belonging — the need for friendship, for affection, for intimacy. Next are our esteem needs, meaning our need to achieve, be independent, to have a certain status, and to gain the respect of ourselves and others. Finally, the peak of the pyramid is self-actualization.

    Self-actualization is the achievement of your full potential. Self-actualization is growing towards  total self-fulfillment. When you reach peak state, where you are at the pinnacle of performance, you are self-actualized. If you are wondering what self-actualization looks like, there are several characteristics Maslow describes that are shared by self-actualized people:

    1. They are realistic and tolerant of the unknown.

    Self-actualized people are capable of accepting reality for what it is, and are not afraid of what they do not know. They may even be attracted to the mysteries of life, instead of experiencing fear about them.

    1. They accept themselves and others for who they are.

    They have a realistic perception of themselves and others, and therefore, do not need to pretend to be anyone but themselves.

    1. They are spontaneous.  

    Self-actualized people enjoy the present moment more than other people. They have the ability to be spontaneous and truly enjoy life. They respond organically to the world around them, so they are more open with themselves.

    1. They help others and are not self-obsessed.

    Self-actualized people want to help their fellow man, and are motivated by a responsibility to the external world and not just themselves.

    1. They have a sense of humor.

    They are able to laugh at themselves and observe the humor in daily life, but do not feel the need to mock other people.

    1. They are very creative.

    They do not merely survive, they create. They are passionate about contributing to the larger world around them.

    1. They have deep, intimate relationships.

    Self-actualized people are able to form deep bonds with a few people. While they show kindness to strangers and feel a connection with the world as a whole, they have just a few truly deep bonds in their life.  

    1. They appreciate solitude.

    Self-actualized people value alone time because it gives them time to explore themselves. While they enjoy the company of others, they are not uncomfortable being alone, and actively seek privacy.

    1. They have peak experiences.

    Self-actualized people experience transformative moments of wonder, joy, and awe.
    For more information on self-actualization and how to achieve it, read The Power Of Peak State.

  9. Choosing To Be Confident

    For many people, confidence does not come easily. In today’s world of social media, there is a culture of constant comparison, and it is easy for many people to fall into a pattern of feelings of  self-doubt and inferiority. Unfortunately, this becomes a vicious cycle, because the lower your confidence is, the less likely you are to succeed. Fortunately, you do not have to wait around for high self-esteem to suddenly occur; you can choose to be confident.

    A key part of reaching peak state is to gain control of your emotions. To reach peak state, you must alter your behavior and make a habit out of excellence, and through this, you can choose to feel whatever emotion is best for each situation. Though you cannot control everything, you can control your response to situations. In life, there will be people who reach goals you want to achieve before you. This should not discourage you. You can instead choose to use their success to inspire you. If they have achieved this goal, it is possible for you to as well! It is all about perspective. In order to alter your perspective, there are certain steps you can take:

    Visualize success

    Visualization is a powerful tool. The next time you are faced with a challenge, do not think of all the things that could go wrong; instead, vividly imagine exactly what success will look like. Allow yourself to be transported to the future, where you have stepped up and successfully completed this task. By seeing the end goal, your decisions and actions will be influenced by this vision, and you will approach it with more confidence.

    Challenge self-doubt

    When you find yourself experiencing self-doubt, it is important to identify that thought, and challenge it. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself, take a moment to flip that thought around. Say, for example, that you find yourself thinking that you will never be able to move up in your company because you are not good enough. Challenge that immediately by saying outloud to yourself, “I am good enough. I can succeed in this company.”

    Be patient
    Any endeavor that is worthwhile takes time. When things do not seem to be going in your favor, you may feel the need to just quit and let the feelings of self-doubt creep in. This is counterproductive. Confidence requires you to stick out challenging situations and rest assured that the results will make it worth the struggle.

  10. Enjoying the Journey

    Setting and reaching goals is a pivotal part of achieving Peak State. However, just because you have not reached your goal does not mean you can’t experience high levels of happiness. There is a lot of potential for joy in the process of striving for something, and enjoying the journey will ultimately lead you to greater success in the end.

    It is easy to get disheartened when you are trying to become your best self. Change does not just happen; you must make a conscious effort. That is why you must make small, attainable goals in order to achieve larger ones. Say, for example, you want to 40 pounds. Losing that amount of weight will not happen overnight, and having only a lofty target like that to aim for will discourage you when you don’t see immediate results. It is better to make smaller, concrete goals that contribute to your larger mission. Aiming to lose a pound a week is less intimidating and more specific than losing 40 pounds, but it still contributes to that larger overall objective.

    It is important to also stay in the present moment. It is easy to get distracted by the future vision you have for yourself, but you cannot live for it because we cannot predict the future, so choose to be happy now. Pursue the life you want, but enjoy what you have now too. Ultimately, when you do reach Peak State, you will appreciate it more fully because you enjoyed your journey there.