When many people think of success, they associate it with their finances, career, or education. While these are certainly important areas in which to strive for success, the quality of our lives is dictated by far more than that. Having successful relationships, whether they are romantic, familial, or friendly, has a great deal to do with our personal happiness. Just as with anything you do, you must put effort into your relationships in order for them to be successful.

Be the friend/partner/father/mother you want to have

A good rule of thumb that you are probably familiar with is to treat others the way you want to be treated. This will deepen your capacity to empathize with your loved one because you are actively putting yourself in their shoes. Empathy is an important element of any successful relationship.

Keep your promises

A successful relationship is built on mutual trust. The best way to build trust is to be consistent between what you say you are going to do and what you actually do. When someone knows they can rely on you to follow through on your promises, they know they can trust you to put effort into your relationship.

Be generous with yourself

Generosity doesn’t mean that you need to give gifts or money to your loved ones. Instead, you should be generous with yourself. That means being thoughtful and truly caring about their feelings. Regularly checking in with your friends and family to see how they are doing is a form of generosity. Also be open about your appreciation for the things your friends and family do for you, whether through words, a gift, or a thoughtful gesture.

Having successful relationships is an important element to reaching peak state. For more information about reaching peak state, read The Power Of Peak State.